Remember when your grandmother told you that if you didn’t have anything nice to say to say nothing. Those words were some gold nuggets of wisdom. We need to speak positively whenever possible and surround ourselves with optimistic people because according to Proverbs 18:21, life and death (success and failure,freedom and bondage, etc,etc)is in the power of the tongue. When we cannot speak truthfully and positively we should be quiet and listen up for a solution to the problem we are facing. We need to listen twice as much as we talk anyway, which is why God gave us two ears and only one mouth.