It seems like cheating and affairs are at an all time high; Hollywood scandal is full of how unfaithful this or that person is and their saga plays out in the media for us all to see and judge. The philanderer is dragged through the mud; but I think it’s time we step back for a second and look at the entire picture. People aren’t having affairs by themselves and it usually comes down to the issue of respect! Let’s talk about a few scenarios…follow me. People don’t cheat alone so here are a few kinds of folks they may end up “doing-the-do” with:
1) Mr. or Mrs. “they’re separated.”
2) Mr. or Mrs. “Their mate must not be doing something right at home.”
3) Mr. or Mrs. “I didn’t know they were married.”
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These were the two scenarios I mentioned in my comments:Single people,mostly women, who are too bogged down with elder care, single parenting, going both to school and working full time,or launching their businesses or careers to have time,energy or other resources for a real relationships often opt for affairs with married folk rather than being alone. However, they don't realize that they are squandering precious time,energy,emotion,and damaging important relationships with true friends and family on dropping everything and everybody when their married lover calls and wants to spend a few moments together More often than not,the married person they're seeing is absent for holidays,birthdays and other special times. So what is the single person involved in an affair but alone and lonely.They are risking losing the respect of important people in their lives when their lover's spouse find out and justifiably,dramatically expose them to everyone for the home wrecking ho-bags they are. Finally,they would be better off working on self improvement and working on enriching real,appropriate friendships and family relationships so that when they finally have time for a real relationship they will be bringing more to the table in every way,so they will attract a better partner and have a more successful union.
Sometimes young women perhaps in college who are adults and for whatever reason still live at home with very strict parents who insist that they come home every night at a certain time rather than spending nights and weekends with their boyfriends often fall victim to the “I didn’t know he was married scam”. If you’re a lady who has to be home at a decent hour every night and have to sneak out and sneak in yourself,you don’t even think twice about the fact that your lover is sneaking around too and why he may have to be discreet. Some of these women’s parents still also restrict how late they receive phone calls,tell them that for whatever reason that it is inappropriate to date right now or ever, and feel that they have the right to decide for their adult children that they will remain virgins or at least celibate until marriage. There lies the respect problem again though. Respect for parents and the rules of their house and respect for the way you were raised.
Let me know what you think about this?